5 Reasons You Might be Standing in the Way of Your Own Goals

July 16, 2014 Sara Crawford

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So many people are unhappy with their current jobs or their current life situations. You may have dreams of getting into another career, starting your own business, or improving your health or finances. You may find that every December, you make the same New Year’s resolutions that you’ve been making year after year, and you don’t seem to ever achieve your goals.

It could be that you’ve always blamed your situation or another person instead of taking a closer look to see if you are standing in your own way. You may find yourself saying things like, “I could start a business if I only had more money,” or “I could meditate and exercise every day if I had more time.” However, you may be unconsciously preventing your own success. Here are some of the ways you could be doing this:

1. You Are Too Comfortable

Sometimes we stay in situations that we aren’t entirely happy with just because they are familiar. It can be scary to put yourself out there and try something different, something new. It can even be scary for some people to shake up their routines by going to the gym or trying a new church. Sometimes it feels more comfortable to just stay put. But look back over your life and think about all of the great things you would have missed out on if you hadn’t taken a risk in some way.

2. Your Goals are Vague or Undefined

It could be that you know you want to work in a profession where you get to help people, but you have no idea which profession that actually is. You need to figure out exactly what you want. Then, you can create a plan that will help you achieve your goal. You may want to do some research online or speak with someone who is working on something you think you want to achieve. Get really specific about what you want in your life. 

3. You Haven't Taken Action

I know so many people who are always talking about that great book they’re going to write or that marathon they are going to run or how they are going to go back to school and get that degree they’ve always wanted. Unfortunately, a lot of people only talk about these things, and they never do anything about it. If you want to write a book, write. If you want to go back to school, get online and research colleges around you and how to apply to them. The action you take doesn’t have to be big. A lot of people get overwhelmed about the idea of exercising, for example, because they assume they have to run three miles a day. However, taking action could simply mean going for 20 minute walks every day after work and then building up your fitness routine. It’s okay to take a small step as long as you are doing something.

4. You Are Too Negative

You may think something like, “well, I would love to start my own restaurant, but no one would probably want to eat there, anyway.” If you don’t believe you can achieve your goals, no one else is going to either. Visualize your future the way you want it to be, and then take action to get there. Don’t assume the worst will happen before you’ve even tried.

5. You’re Afraid of Rejection

Anytime you put yourself out there in any way, you run the risk of being rejected. This is not a bad thing. You should learn not to take rejection personally because getting rejected often has nothing to do with you. You may not get a job you interview for because the manager’s friend from college interviewed for that same job. Your essay may not get published in a publication because they have already committed to publishing one that is on a similar topic. Do not let your fear of rejection prevent you from doing the things you are supposed to be doing. Take pride in your rejections. If you have been turned down a lot, it only means that you have tried a lot. It means that you have put yourself out there, and that is half the battle.


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About the Author

Sara Crawford

Sara Crawford is a Renaissance woman from Atlanta, Georgia. She is a freelance writer and marketer by day, author, poet, playwright, and musician by night. She has an MFA in Creative Writing from the University of New Orleans, and her upcoming young adult novel is called The Muses.

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